Intentional tech use: Helping young people build immunity to persuasive technology

Photo by Fredrick Tendong on Unsplash

Photo by Fredrick Tendong on Unsplash

Alt Ed Austin is delighted to bring the work and voice of guest contributor Seth Bunev to our readers. Seth is a remarkable young writer, researcher, and educator whose new book, Screenfarers: Nurturing Deliberate Action in a Digital World, was released in paperback this month; both book and ebook can be found here. He has been rethinking education systems since age 7 and has participated in numerous forms of school, from Montessori to distance learning. Starting at age 17, he spent four years offline to better understand how digital technologies had shaped his experience and to try to experience something different. Seth teaches naturalist skills to children and is currently working with Turning Life On to develop a school program that facilitates a more balanced relationship with tech at a community level.


I grew up with the internet. In high school, I regularly stayed up till three in the morning watching YouTube videos. This was normal among my peers—it was also normal to have trouble remembering things, avoid eye contact, and be diagnosed with depression. It was obvious to me at the time that these things were, at least to some degree, related to our digital habits.

Why would we do this to ourselves? Well, in the moment, it seemed fun. Somehow, it seemed fun even when my eyes were bloodshot, I had a headache, and I had barely left my room for a week. There was always another interesting thing to read, or watch, just a click away.

While modern digital technologies are powerful, and can have many benefits, some of the less positive effects are increasingly obvious: the eye damage, attention disorders, compulsive behaviors, loss of social skills, even loss of a social fabric in which to practice those skills.

It is no accident that young people spend huge numbers of hours on digital media, with US teens averaging about 7.5 hours per day in 2019. Social media and video game companies carefully design their products to be as addictive as possible, because their business model usually depends on maximizing “time on device” to generate data and ad revenue, or encourage in-game purchases. On top of that, there is the cumulative effect of millions of people competing to create the most eye-catching and engaging online content.

As a result, compulsive tech use is rampant. If this were confined only to video games, or clickbait sites, the solution would be simpler—complete avoidance would be an option. But pretty much everything on the internet can create unwanted habits, from email to database searching to blogs. It is possible to live without digital media—I did so for four years, to better understand its effects on me—but at present that is not feasible or desirable for most people. Can we have the good things the internet provides, without the disruptive habits?

It would help to have cultural norms that restrict digital tech’s invasion of every aspect of life. Perhaps we can also hope for a digital paradigm that doesn’t aggressively leverage human psychology to keep people hooked. But those things will take time. While we work towards them, we need to help kids and youth develop the skills to take charge of their relationship with digital tech at an individual level—ways to build immunity to the nebulous thing variously referred to as habit-forming technology, persuasive technology, or behavior design.

The immunity-building regimen I have developed, through research and experimentation on myself and peers, involves three components:

  1. Understanding how persuasive tech works, the underlying motivations behind it, and how to recognize it in digital interfaces

  2. Practicing attention to one’s own digital habits and how they are shaped by design

  3. Cultivating habits that facilitate intentional use of digital media

Together, these three approaches can interrupt some of the unconscious habits and habit-forming mechanisms through which tech use gets out of control.

Photo by Chris Yang on Unsplash

Photo by Chris Yang on Unsplash

How Persuasive Technology Works

The human brain works and develops by linking things together—neurons, words and their meanings, places and memories of them, stimuli and behaviors. These associations can form sequences, which become habits.

Drawing on the field of behaviorism founded by B. F. Skinner, digital platforms create associations that shape behavior. Specifically, they do this by linking something we desire or feel strongly about with an action the company wants us to take, according to Nir Eyal, author of Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products. The desire for social connection can be linked to a behavior like checking notifications, which leads back to a social media site. Then, when someone takes the desired action, the habit is reinforced by a psychological reward—either one directly generated by the platform, such as an “achievement,” or one generated by other people using the options strategically provided within the platform, such as an exciting video or a “like.” Thanks to competition among companies, pretty much every human desire is now targeted by this approach.

The companies responsible for vast swaths of the internet use this type of psychological technique to maximize “time on device.” The net result is widespread compulsive use and many people of all ages spending more time on screens than is healthy or even desired (by them!). This is a difficult issue to confront for several reasons:

  • The good things about digital technologies—availability of information, ease of connection with others, entertainment, convenience—are also what can make them addictive.

  • Persuasive design accomplishes its goals by restructuring a person’s values, motivations, behaviors, and identity around using the platforms in question.

  • Persuasive design is integrated into the very infrastructure that we currently depend on for many essential and valuable activities.

  • Widespread dependence on digital technologies for nearly everything has destroyed the offline social fabric.

How can we navigate this complex situation? How can young people, whose identities and lives are often heavily invested in digital media, and who are immersed in a society where compulsive use of these technologies is the norm, be encouraged to find moderation, assess their habits, and be intentional?


Learning to Pay Attention

When I was a teenager slouched over my laptop, it was not helpful for my parents to tell me I was damaging my eyes, or to express any other kind of concern about the effects of my actions. I grew up in a culture that valorizes rebellion against authority—adults telling me to do something made me want to do the opposite, even if I agreed with them.

While it is helpful to tell young people about how and why digital tech is designed to shape their behavior—this is a fact of the world, which they can research themselves—it is not necessarily so helpful to tell them how they are affected by it. It can feel like an attempt to limit their freedom, creating pushback.

On the other hand, helping kids and youth see how designers of digital platforms are trying to control their behavior allows pushback to go in a more productive direction! Are the persuasive technologists succeeding? If so, in what ways? Better to ask the kids to figure that out for themselves, developing the habit of being more intentional with how they relate to devices in the process.

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One excellent way to do this is to encourage them to keep a journal of their tech use. Whether it is the number of times they touch their cellphone, the number of hours they spend on screens in a week, or how much of that time they are spending on each type of activity, writing down observations as objectively as possible can be revealing. It’s easy not to remember where the time went, but it’s hard to argue with one’s own record of it.

In addition to tracking their own behavior, young people can use journals to track the persuasive design features they find in their apps, games, and websites, and to asking questions about them. Why is this button here? Why did this message pop up at this specific time? What is this webpage trying to encourage me to do?

The more I observe consciously how I am impacted by digital tech, the more motivated I am to take charge of my interactions and ensure that they serve my goals, not Google’s or Facebook’s. And the more I look for persuasive design in the digital places I go, the less likely I am to simply do whatever a website prompts me to do without even noticing. The practice of observing and recording one’s tech habits is a way to wedge some conscious thought into sequences of behaviors that have become totally automatic.


Creating Habits of Intentional Use

Ideally, we should be helping young people create intentional use habits when such habits are the easiest to form—as soon as they have access to digital technology. But starting early is not always an option.

A “digital detox,” a period of time without digital tech, can be helpful for creating intentional habits. When I started using computers again after years offline, it was easy to stay on task and do exactly what I intended—my old habits had mostly faded into oblivion. Even a week can be enough time to create a sense of divide between habits-before and habits-after, and to give new habits a head start. Even a weekend would help.

One of the simplest ways to develop more intentional digital habits is to take a moment to decide on an intention before using a device, and practice sticking to it. The following exercise builds this skill:

  1. Decide on a single purpose before opening a laptop, unlocking a smartphone, etc.

  2. If straying from the original purpose, try to remember the origin of the distraction and return to the intended activity.

  3. When finished, reflect on the difference between intention and behavior. Was there a gap? Why? What could be changed?

As with paying attention, practicing intention can be aided by recording the intention and reflection in a notebook. Over time, young people who apply this exercise to their digital activities will build up an understanding of their own minds, making it easier to anticipate and prevent distractions before they happen. The habit of sticking to an intention can help counteract the numerous sources of distraction.

Cultivating such a habit, combined with the practice of attention, a basic knowledge of how persuasive design works, and a grasp of what is at stake (their time—that is, their lives), can empower people to access the bounty of the digital age while reducing some of its negative side effects. 


Note: This guest post is the author's adaptation of an article originally published on
INTENTA DIGITAL.


Seth Bunev | Screenfarers

Learning about Martin Luther King Jr. and nonviolent protest

Teaching kids about the holiday we’re marking today seems especially important this year. How can we help our children understand and embrace the power of nonviolent protest in a time when they see adults engaged in so many violent acts?

We’ve rounded up a range of approaches for parents and educators who want to open up discussions with kids about activism for freedom, equality, and justice on the day that honors Martin Luther King Jr.—or any day. Please share any books, videos, or other resources you love in the comments below!

Something Everyone Can Do

NPR’s Kwame Alexander and Rachel Martin would like people to “write our way out of the unprecedented events of the past year and into the space of possibility.” They suggest we write a poem beginning with the line, “I dream a world.” We can do this just for ourselves and our families or share it with the folks at NPR, and they will create a community crowd-sourced poem out of many of the submissions.

For Older Kids

KQED recently created a learning video and materials for discussion called Is There a Right Way to Protest? It’s up-to-date and terrific for launching conversations on a variety of topics, both historical and contemporary.

The King Institute at Stanford University has a set of Lesson Plans on Nonviolent Resistance designed for kids in middle school and high school. They include primary sources for deeper study and critical reading. And be sure to take a look at King’s Six Principles of Nonviolence. PBS Learning has a unit on Peaceful Protests that combines lessons from women’s activism in Liberia with a lesson on MLK and his “Letter from a Birmingham Jail.”

For Younger Kids

If you’re the parent of a younger child who needs a first introduction to the concepts of segregation, inequality, and peaceful protests, Scholastic has produced a lovely five-minute film: Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr: A Leader and Hero.  And Dory Lerner of the National Civil Rights Museum recommends the book My Uncle Martin’s Big Heart by Angela Farris Watkins.

Social studies teachers LaNesha Tabb and Naomi O’Brien created resources on Martin Luther King Jr.  they share for a small fee on a platform called TeachersPayTeachers. In a YouTube video, Naomi walks through the basics for K–2 students, suggesting moments when you can pause for questions and discussion. Even if you’re not looking for more formal lessons, you’ll find that her guidance for sharing vocabulary and ideas around racism in the past and present is valuable. She urges people not to shy away from these topics just because they’re uncomfortable.

And Finally . . .

The MLK Center for Nonviolent Social Change offered a virtual tour of the Martin Luther King Jr. National Historical Park  with a park ranger last year. It’s a more personal story of the man that includes an intimate view of his childhood home.


Shelley Sperry | Sperry Editorial

Why should I take an art class? I don’t want to be an artist when I grow up!

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Alison Pilon Nokes teaches art, among other subjects, at
Huntington-Surrey High School in Austin. Her guest contribution here is adapted from her recent post on the school’s own blog.


After about ten years in the visual art education world, I feel pretty strongly that everyone should take an art class—every year, if possible!

Throughout my own educational and professional experiences, I have always felt freed by the opportunity for creative problem solving and exploration of visual media provided through the visual arts. I was, and still am, able to process many different parts of my life through an art outlet. And while I do, personally, as an adult, identify as an artist, I think the benefits of working through an artistic process—much like the experience of working with the scientific method in a science course—are worthwhile for everyone to experience as they venture through their education, no matter what they end up doing and becoming. 

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We are living in a rapidly changing world. In many ways, we cannot even imagine what the work force and daily life are going to look like for our kids when they come of age. This year of rapid adjustment to virtual learning and social distancing has certainly given us all a taste of how flexible we need to be and how quickly our world can change. What we do know is that students who can think critically and creatively about a variety of complex problems are going to have the best chance for success in just about any setting. 

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Not every student who is taking an art class is planning to apply to art school for college. In fact, most aren’t (just as not every student who is taking a biology course plans to become a biologist). It is with that in mind that I design lessons and projects for my art students. My lessons provide students with opportunities to play with materials they may not have used before, discover for themselves how those materials work, and consider how they can use them to meet their needs. My lessons present students with a problem, a dilemma, or an obstacle and ask them to come up with an out-of-the-box solution.

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As much fun as it is for families and friends to walk into a student art show at the end of the year full of beautiful finished work, the reality of art is that most often what students make is messy and strange. For every finished work of art that is “pretty,” there are often several unsuccessful attempts (I’m purposely avoiding the term “failures”). Those unsuccessful attempts—those messy and strange drawings, paintings, and sculptures—are what show the important lessons of art: the processes of working out a solution to a problem. As a teacher of art, the most important thing to me is not what the final product looks like. Rather, I want my art students to put forth their best effort, maintain a good attitude about trying, and work through the hard process of solving problems in innovative ways with materials that may be new to them.


Alison Pilon Nokes

3 things I’ve learned about distance learning as an online tutor

Jason Silverberg, M.Ed., joins us as a guest contributor to share his insights about remote learning. He has been a classroom teacher and popular tutor since 2004.


Ever since the world turned upside down, many parents have been in a constant state of uncertainty as to what type of schooling environment is best for their children. Is it safe to return to campus? Could lessons taught over Zoom really be effective? Well, ever since shifting all of my tutoring online in March, I’m proud to report that I have had much more success than I originally thought possible. I’ve learned a lot about connection, improvisation, and perseverance, and I look forward to seeing my students continue to meet and exceed their goals. Here are my top three takeaways from the last six months as an online educator.

A positive outlook is key.

To a lot of people, education just seemed too hands-on and interpersonal to move to an online medium. But as anyone wearing a mask and social distancing will tell you, sometimes doing what seems uncomfortable might just be the best way to move forward. People, especially children, are resilient. If the goal is to learn with no threat of spreading the virus, online tutoring is the safest bet. Starting off with a positive mindset makes all the difference. You get out what you put in.       

Vibe is fully translatable.

A teacher is more than just a random person, and a classroom is more than just four walls. It’s the teacher’s personality, vibe, and surroundings that create a unique, welcoming atmosphere. Whatever you bring to the classroom can also be conveyed online, especially a sense of humor. Nothing cements a friendship like cracking up together! Ironically, being limited to the confines of a computer screen actually feels limitless in a lot of ways. This even applies to my students whom I have still not yet met in person. Seeing my home, my drums, my plants, my cat, etc. gives them more of an opportunity to see what we have in common, which of course only strengthens our bond and makes learning much more of a fun experience.  

Being face-to-face on the screen rather than side-by-side at a table also makes it easier to notice when students get distracted. At these times, I can always tell what they need in order to get back on track. Redirection? A change of gear? A brain break? A quick conversation? Even taking one minute together to watch a youtube video of a puppy can make the rest of the session even more focused than before.

Being in the driver’s seat further opens the open road.

Online tutoring may seem impersonal at first glance, but it actually allows students to work for extended periods of time with their teacher one-on-one…an extremely rare occurrence in most classrooms. In this type of setting, teachers can more easily assess a student’s specific needs, reinforce unclear concepts, and even identify and repair past educational misunderstandings that might have normally gone undetected. 

Watch Jason in action in this video from a tutoring session. [TutoringMindset.com Disclaimer: I do not claim to own the rights to the songs or movie clips in this video. 😇]

My students know that they can only succeed if they meet me halfway. Signing into sessions on their own, taking initiative, and asking clarifying questions encourages and empowers them to take their education into their own hands. Of course, these feelings contribute to their ongoing ability to consistently surpass expectations throughout their academic career and beyond.

When the world gets back on its feet someday, I look forward to seeing the many ways in which schooling may change. Regardless of lessons being taught online or in person, I take comfort in knowing that the connection between the teacher and the student will always remain the most important aspect of education. 


Jason Silverberg

Media Monday: Exploring neurodiversity in pop culture

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We actually don’t understand the landscape that younger people have to navigate. And that’s why it’s so important not to tell kids how it’s going to be, but to listen to them as they try to find words to tell us how it is for them. And that’s sort of the struggle of autism.

—Hannah Gadsby, The Ezra Klein Podcast, August 17, 2020*

*Please note that Hannah Gadsby’s interview and her shows are more appropriate for mature teens and adults, while Speed Cubers, the film recommended below, is accessible for kids 8 and up.


In the past few years, people on the autism spectrum have shared their perspectives with the world in new and compelling ways, including books, films, TV shows, and even stand-up comedy. In the past couple of weeks I’ve stumbled upon a couple of new entries to the mix that I enjoyed, so I’d like to share them here. I hope any parents and kids out there with other favorites to share will do that in the comments, and we can follow up with another blog post soon.

The Speed Cubers (Netflix) is a short documentary about Max Park, a rock star in the world of competitive Rubik’s cube solvers. Max’s world opens up to new friends and experiences when he takes his skills and determination to new heights at the 2019 Rubik’s Cube World Championship.

The film is really about the power of friendship and parental support. As a kid, Max is able to overcome some of his isolation and improve his motor skills by playing with cubes with his parents. In the wider world, his admiration for a champion “cuber” from Australia, Feliks Zemdegs, leads Max to learn to interpret social cues and to deal with both success and failure with grace. The connection and mutual support of the two young men is inspiring, and the joyful spirit of the competitions is an antidote to any pandemic-inspired malaise you might be feeling right now.

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I’m a fan of the Ezra Klein podcast and was thrilled last week to discover an hour-long interview with Australian comedian Hannah Gadsby. Gadsby’s first Netflix special, Nanette, caused a sensation in 2018 when she used her incredible power as a storyteller to talk about trauma, misogyny, queerness, and her struggles to find her place in a deeply homophobic culture—all within the framework of a comedy performance.

Klein’s conversation with Gadsby was one of the most enlightening I’ve ever heard on the topic of living with autism in a world that can’t or won’t understand or accommodate differences. It’s also a somewhat rare look at the female experience. Gadsby was only identified as neurodiverse a few years ago in her late 30s. That revelation is the subject of her most recent Netflix special, Douglas (named after her beloved dog). Much of the podcast conversation revolves around how the education system at all levels failed to pick up on Gadsby’s neurodiversity, leading to years of struggle when she simply couldn’t navigate the world as others expected and ended up homeless and vulnerable. Her intelligence and wit shines through in the conversation as it does in her work, much of which is also inspired by her love of art history. And as Klein says, it makes the experience of autism “emotionally legible.”

A few other recent additions to cultural representations of autism are listed below; these are mainly for teens. The PBS show Reading Rockets has a full list of recommended books for younger kids featuring autistic characters. Please add your own favorites to the comments!

  • There are several recent TV series centered on neurodiverse characters right now, and one of the most unique features Harlan, a young character on The Umbrella Academy who is autistic and nonverbal and has a variety of supernatural powers, including telekinesis. (Suitable for kids 15 and up.)

  • Madeleine Ryan’s A Room Called Earth is a novel that draws on its author’s experiences on the spectrum, especially the way she processes feelings. Ryan says of her main character: “It felt like she’d chosen me. And in a sense, from that point on, she really helped me to embrace autism.” (For kids who read adult fiction.)

  • Paige Lyle, a TikTok video star, takes on a wide range of topics, including debunking myths about her life with autism: “You should listen to disabled people on disabled issues. You should always listen to the person it affects.” (Suitable for kids 15 and up.)


Shelley Sperry
| Sperry Editorial

Sudbury silver linings

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Today we’re pleased to share an important update from Bruce Smith, a longtime staff member of Clearview Sudbury School, about the Clearview community’s democratic decision-making around reopening during the COVID-19 pandemic.


In a time when so many are stressed and scrambling, when good options seem rare, gratitude for the silver linings becomes that much richer. As schools and unschoolers alike approach the end of summer, I am very fortunate to be part of a community that just made our own hard, but healthy, decision.

At a special (and, of course, virtual) meeting in late July, the staff, students, and parents of Clearview Sudbury School voted to push the first day of our 2020–2021 school year to 2021— January 6th, to be precise. Our schedule the rest of the year will also see reduced hours and four-day weeks. This vote followed two rounds of surveys and informal discussions, as we worked over several weeks to assess everyone’s preferences and concerns, along with crunching all the numbers we could get our hands on.

While the outcome was relatively difficult and frustrating, there is also a degree of comfort and gratitude. I know I feel better putting off reopening to a date when more of us will feel safer returning. Neither opening while Texas remains a hotspot nor spinning the revolving door of opening and reclosing held any appeal for me. Nor was I interested in returning to the week-to-week uncertainty of this past spring, not knowing if we’d be closed for a week, a month, or the entire semester.

There have been many times over the years when I’ve appreciated the democratic processes of Sudbury schools, but this is the first time it’s hit home quite like this. There’s still plenty of uncertainty, of course, and it isn’t getting any easier to support our families, to keep everyone feeling connected at a distance. However, in comparison to so many other schools, I feel incredibly lucky to be part of one where everyone has a voice and a vote, where we get to decide for ourselves, together, what approach feels safest and best for us.

In a perfect world, every family would have this much of a say in the decisions affecting their children’s learning. And who knows? If this crisis leads more people to find the educational option that works best for them, well, maybe that will be a silver lining on a grand scale.

Thanks for reading, and my best wishes for health and strength to all of you.


Bruce Smith